Dr. Eric Block: Yeah. When I first got out and for, you know, several years after I got out into the real world—um, you know, first of all, in dental school, you talk over the patient, you don’t talk, you know, to the patient or with the patient. There’s absolutely no communication skills there. And, you know, when I first got out, I was such a nervous wreck and I lacked confidence. Um, it took me a while to build that, you know, that self-confidence.
What would you tell, you know, the young dentist out there that suffers from kind of a similar thing that I did?
Debra Engelhardt-Nash: You know, that’s interesting because oftentimes, if there’s a young dentist at the Institute taking one of our courses, or if there’s a young dentist in my audiences, I will go to them—and not in a challenging way, but sort of in a challenging way. I say, "I’m your patient, and I’m old enough to be your mother or your grandmother. How are you gonna convince me that I should trust you? What are you gonna say to me that helps me feel comfortable and confident that you can take good care of me?"
And so oftentimes I will coach young—especially young—doctors. And I said this this past weekend, and there was actually a sponsor, a company sponsor, who said, "That was brilliant." And I would say, "Gee, doctor, I’m not buying what you do. I’m not buying your clinical abilities. What I’m buying is why you do it. I’m buying your purpose. So when your purpose is strong, your ‘how’ becomes easy. Your ‘what’ becomes easy."
So for me, my advice to the young doctor is, I would sit with you if you were my patient and I would say, "Thank you for allowing me, giving me the privilege of treating you, and I promise to serve you well. Here’s what I want to offer you." And here’s the magic question—whether you be a brand-new dentist or an experienced dentist. In one of my workshops I did with Peter Boulden out of Atlanta Dental Spa, he said, "Debra, I wish you would’ve taught me that question years ago."
This would be a question for a young dentist to introduce treatment to a patient, and it works. Ross uses it all the time. And the question is this to the patient: instead of saying, "I’m gonna tell you what you need," or "Here’s what you need"—I don’t buy what I need, I don’t care, I don’t choose what I need. The question is, "Eric, would you allow me to tell you what I’d like to do for you? If you gave me carte blanche, if you were my brother, would you allow me to tell you what I’d like to do for you?"
I have never heard a patient say, "No, don’t tell me." But I’ve heard a lot of patients—when I say, "I want to tell you what you need"—say, "I only want to hear what insurance is going to cover." So that is an open question.
So I think that, you know, a young dentist is not going to prove themselves by their clinical aptitude. They’re going to prove themselves by saying, "This is who I am and this is why I’m a dentist, and this is how I want to serve you. And would you allow me to tell you what I’d like to do for you?"
Dr. Eric Block: Uh, I’m gonna use that. I love that. Uh, you know, "If I had carte blanche, can I tell you what I can do for you?" And that, in combination with—we started taking diagnostic wellness scans on new patients—and to show them their scans, right? And show ’em their teeth in 3D, um, is such a great way to increase, uh, case acceptance. I love that.
Debra Engelhardt-Nash: Absolutely. It’s huge. It’s huge. The other thing that happens is—and I say this a lot in my programs—once again, I was just in an office in Scottsdale a couple of weeks ago, and we have a tendency—and I’m not saying you, but you are a dentist—so, we have a tendency to assume that it’s okay to jump into a patient’s mouth. We don’t ask permission. We don’t ask them how they’re feeling about their experience with us so far. We don’t have a segue.
You know, we walk in—either sometimes it’s a treatment coordinator or a dental assistant, sometimes you walk in and it’s a dental hygienist—we walk in and we jump into their face. And I love it when we could take a moment, when we stop a little bit and we say to the patient, "Tell me how you’re feeling about your experience with us so far."
And they say, "Oh my gosh, you guys are awesome." You know, I love to hear that. I mean—and even if you said it at the end—that’s obviously the invitation to ask for a Google review. But I think that there’s something, especially—and it could be because of my age—and now, I don’t know, maybe I’m… some of my friends accuse me sometimes of being too informal or too formal, which I totally disagree.
I mean, I do have—I mean, I have minions and chickens and everything around me right now—but I always say, "Would you allow me to examine you?" When was the last time you asked permission? So for a young dentist to say to me, "How would you prefer to be addressed?" And someone should have already told you, if you were the young dentist, "This is Debra, this is how she likes to be referred to—by the Queen of the Nile or, you know, Princess Leia," or whatever that may be.
And they say, "You know, Debra, thank you so much for trusting me with your care. Would you allow me to—how are you feeling about your experience with us so far? Would you allow me to proceed with the exam?" I mean, that’s kind of a Ritz-Carlton next level that is easy to learn.
Dr. Eric Block: It’s super easy to learn and, you know, anyone can do it. And it’s such a great segue to, um, yeah—you know, transition—
Debra Engelhardt-Nash: Bit of open wide. Here’s another thing that we have to be careful about. Um, I know you think you’re in control of this podcast, and you and I have never done this together, but, you know, I got things to say.
Debra Engelhardt-Nash: So thinking—speaking of that—I wanna, I’m gonna kind of jump into recare, ’cause I think it’s really important. And you have to tell me when we have to quit. I’ve got a flight at six, so we’re good—I’m good until, you know, four.
So actually, um, any strength taken to excess becomes a weakness. So sometimes familiarity with our patients can sometimes be perceived as apathy. So oftentimes when we’re talking in hygiene—if you were, let’s say, my patient for a long period of time—I might say during the morning huddle, "Oh, I know Eric. He’s not interested. He’s insurance-driven. He knows he needs two crowns on the top left side, but he’s not interested. He’s not gonna do them. We’ve told him for years. This is gonna be a really easy cleaning. You know, he doesn’t want to hear about flossing."
And we go into our bias—our relationship bias—what we think. Or we almost become… and everybody says, "Okay, engage in relationship and talk about their children and talk about golf and talk about their kids and talk about food." But we could take that to an excess, and it really becomes a weakness.
And the epitome of this, an example—my former husband—I don’t like to call him "ex" ’cause it sounds like he’s icky and he’s not. He’s a great guy. And we had a beautiful child together. And he’s living happily in Ocean Shores, Washington State. He called me one day—and I know his dentist. His dentist is an exceptional dentist—and I know his dentist in Seattle. And he said, "Debra, I’m gonna dispute my recall exam fee, and I’d like you to walk me through some language skills."